Why I Started Admitting I Was Wrong

Dale Carnegie said in How to Win Friends and Influence People, that if any of us were right more than half the time, we’d be making a killing on Wall Street.

It feels like others would lose respect for someone who admits they have been wrong, but the opposite is true.

It is tough, but when I finally get over the pride, admitting when I am wrong is liberating. It feels great to not carry the burden of supporting a position just because you at one point thought it made sense.

Things change. New information comes to light.

A friend remarked about how scary it was looking back a few years, that he was an entirely different person. I said, it would be scarier if he were the exact same.

For me, growth has required admitting when I was wrong.

I have been wrong in the past about politics; I am sure some of the oldest posts on this blog reflect that. In fact I was wrong about my whole prescription for how to change the world, I was wrong about the website that accompanied this blog, and wrong about what to name it.

I thought people needed to be educated, as if I knew so much more than those around me. And to educate, I would tell them all the terrible things happening around them, and how they were contributing to them unless they did X, Y, and Z.

Admitting I was wrong about this approach opened up much more fun subject matter to write about: promoting a positive future. There are so many great minds, amazing innovations, and exponential technology that there is no reason to fear the future, or think it will all come crashing down.

I have been wrong about a lot of other things related to my personal life too, but that is for another post. [Join my email list to make sure you don’t miss it].

The path forward is creation, not destruction. We must build each other up, which includes solving problems and creating alternatives to current systems.

I need to keep focusing on stopping myself from telling others they are wrong. Instead, I need to create ways for them to act “right”. And the way to do that, is to create something of value which helps them, and helps them help others.

I am sure I am still wrong about certain beliefs today.

Knowing this makes it easier to move steadily towards truth. It means being dynamic, adapting to my environment, and making the most out of life, instead of being stuck on some path, or in some box I put myself in years ago.

I can either stay “right” about everything, (or pretend I am) and never move beyond my current surroundings, and never change what goes on in my head.

Or I can swallow my pride, admit when I am wrong, gain the respect of my peers, and move forward with boldness.

Failure to admit failures keeps me in stagnation, shuts doors, and removes possibilities. But admitting mistakes means endless possibilities for fresh tries, rebirth, and a bright future.

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7 thoughts on “Why I Started Admitting I Was Wrong

  1. I absolutely loved this article Joe! Really insightful. “A friend remarked about how scary it was looking back a few years, that he was an entirely different person. I said, it would be scarier if he were the exact same.” – this bit was particularly awesome. I often look back and think wow I really was a different person back then so this was quite comforting. Do you feature your writing with any other sites at all?

    • Thanks Mike, I really appreciate it! It is amazing viewing yourself in retrospect; I often question what was I thinking! haha I do some writing for a couple other sites, but most of what I post on my blog is unique to this site. I am totally open to featuring the content in other places though if you have any suggestions. Thanks for taking the time to comment!

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